Most people who grew up with a narcissistic parent do not arrive at that description easily. It tends to come after years of quietly wondering why their relationships feel so complicated, why they work so hard to keep people happy, or why intimacy feels both desperately wanted and faintly terrifying. Understanding what happened in your family is not about blame.…

You had a roof over your head, you went on holidays, and nobody hit anyone. From the outside, your family looked perfectly ordinary, maybe even enviable. Yet something never felt quite right. You learnt early to read the room, to know what mood a parent was in before you even opened the front door. You made yourself smaller, quieter, less…